Next to your walk with the Lord, your marriage is the most important relationship you have. It is vital to continue to nurture it, grow, and better yourself. Below, I want to share three reasons why I believe your spouse deserves a better you.
They Have Changed, And So Have You
Think back to when you first got married, and then look at your life now. I’m taking a shot in the dark here, but I’m going to venture to guess you both are different. Your likes and dislikes may have changed, you might have children, you have finished or gone back to school, or your careers may have changed. Whatever it may be, things are different.
If you are walking with the Lord, He is continually moving you down the road. Our personal lives are never meant to be stationary, and yet they directly impact our marriages. As you and your spouse change throughout the varying seasons of your marriage, you have to become a better you.
My wife and I got married when we were 19 and 20, respectively. If I still acted like a 20 year old now, over a decade later, we would be in trouble. Am I still immature and goof around? Of course I do, but spiritually, mentally, and emotionally I have matured. This maturity allows me to love my wife greater.
I had to become better to be a better husband. I had to make a choice to learn some hard lessons financially, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally so that I could grow in these areas. I can honestly say my love at 20 was an immature love, but today I have grown from that immaturity.
To quote Paul,
“Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 3:12
I continue to pursue a greater level of maturity in my love, respect, and adoration of my wife because she deserves a better me. She deserves for me to mature and grow to love her better.
Determine to grow with your spouse, and become a better you as the days, weeks, and years go by.
Your World Has Changed
Take a look around you. Your world has most likely changed since you got married. You can’t live like you did when you were first married.
I think back on our life together. We started in a little apartment with mismatched and ugly furniture. I worked as a waiter and she worked at a retail store. We have since moved across Texas twice. We now own our second home. We have finished college and grad school. We own our own business, and much more.
When we got married, I don’t even think Facebook was around. Our world has completely changed. We cannot stay the same. We have to become better for each other.
You cannot stay the same. Not only are each of you different, but also your world is different, and because of this your spouse deserves a better you. Even in the change, find your constant or your one thing.
Although the world around us has changed, our roots have been planted in Christ. He is the wellspring for our lives and marriage. This is the constant in our lives, which causes us to grow, mature, and be better for each other. This brings me to my last point.
Stagnation Only Breeds Death And Disease
I have spoken on this before, but stagnation only breeds death and disease. When we delight ourselves in the Lord, he makes us like a tree planted by the water. A tree only stays the same until it reaches its growth potential, and even then it continues to refresh itself and bear new fruit and fresh leaves.
“But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and in His law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither; and in whatever he does, he prospers.” – Psalm 1:2-3
If you choose to never grow personally, in your relationship, or in your walk with the Lord, you are setting yourself up to join the already staggering statistics of divorcees.
As husband and wife your relationship should reflect the imagery of the relationship between Christ and His bride. That relationship is not stagnant, but rather ever growing.
This is just a minute representation because you alone make up only a portion of the bride of Christ; the greater your revelation (understanding) of Jesus Christ, the greater your representation of that imagery will be in the world.
Not only does your spouse deserve a better you, but a world in need of Christ also needs a better you. Above all, the Lord desires you to be better by rising above stagnation.