I hate myself because I am so ugly. – Betty
Now Betty, if you really hated yourself, you would be glad you were ugly.
In fact you may even seek out ways to become uglier…
…if you really hated yourself. – Counselor
Dr. John Street, one of my professors at The Master’s College, shared this story with us while we were taking one of his classes for their MA program in counseling.
I never forgot the irony of the illustration. He said the scenario was a true story.
Whether or not it was true I do not know, but the logic is clear.
Betty had fallen into the cultural trap of trying to look good, as propagated by the self-esteem gurus who patrol the pop-psychology waters spreading their twisted psychology.
The real truth about Betty is that she is so in love with herself that she hates the fact that she is ugly. Personally I’m not sure what the word ugly means when applied to people’s looks. People are not ugly.
I suppose if you bought into the culture’s view of beauty and ugliness, then you could judge people as pretty or ugly. The Bible does not speak in this kind of language because it’s irrelevant. To buy into this cultural worldview is a set-up for personal bondage.
There are several reasons we have made beauty relevant and we have given the “beauty gods” the right to pass judgment on physical beauty. Betty has done this. Her line of reasoning is as follows:
- She looks in the mirror.
- She concludes she is ugly.
- She hates herself.
An honest assessment would go something like this:
- Betty looks in the mirror.
- Betty does not like what she sees, based on cultural dictates and personal preferences.
- Betty is out-of-sync with cultural expectations and also not in-line with her own personal preferences.
- Because of Betty’s love for herself, she hates what she sees in the mirror.
- Therefore, Betty says she hates herself.
- In reality she is in love with herself.
The real truth is Betty has bought into the cultural lie regarding what acceptable beauty should be like and she wants to be well-received by her peers. Betty believes her looks do not meet cultural expectations.