Apr 7, 2013

A Prayer for Parents with Gay Children

  God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling. Psalm 46:1-3
     Dear Jesus, this Scripture seems appropriate in light of the phone call I just finished. A mom and dad in tears, shame and great confusion—devastated to discover their son is gay. Literally, they feel like the earth has given way and the mountains have jumped into the ocean, for the world as they know it has just been turned upside down.
     Jesus, there’s no safer or more welcoming refuge than you. You give us strength when hard stories and fresh crises sap our energy and buckle our knees.  No one is better suited to provide gracious help for troubled hearts than you. I come boldly to your throne of grace.
     I pray for my friends, whose number seems to be multiplying. They love you and they love their son, but they have no clue what this means or what to do next. Please keep them free from stereotypes, bad information and uninvited helpers.
     Unfortunately, like me, they were led to believe that same sex attraction is the most egregious and twisted form of sin. Because of this, their shock and fear makes them want to assign responsibility and find someone to blame. Don’t let them turn on one another, Jesus. More than anything else they need you, and the grace and wisdom you promise. They’re not the point, you are and loving their son well.
     In the next hours and days, calm their hearts and give them kindness beyond their own—your kindness. Understandably, there’s palpable tension and uncertainly in the home right now. I pray for a bridge of compassion and communication. Help them see their son, not as a leper, but as their son. Don’t let them objectify him, Jesus. Help them love him as the sinner-saints they are, not as someone to fix. The gospel, not shame, must prevail.
     And I pray for their son, Jesus. Help me know how to best serve and care for him. He’s confused about you now that he’s convinced about his gay-ness. Bring your mercy and grace to bear in powerful ways. Keep him far from those who would try to exploit his vulnerability—especially from those with evil intent.
     The effects of the fall play out in our lives in so many ways—broken sexuality, the idolatry of greed, the lust for power, to name a few. Though his story, sin and weakness are different than mine, I don’t need you any less than he does, Jesus. Help me make that clear as we lean into this next season together. I pray for healing and deliverance for both of us. So very Amen, I pray, in your gracious and powerful name.
Article from The Gospel Coalition Blog 

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

You have no idea how much this prayer ha affected me. It felt like it was written for me and my husband. My son told me he was a bi sexual a month ago. I have never been so hurt about anything in my entire life. Shock doesn't even begin to convey the emotions that we have been going through.

He has been home schooled his entire life. 16 years old. He says he is an agnostic as well now. We know that JESUS can save him. I pray constantly for him. I just do not know what GOD wants me to do. I can't believe that I didn't see this coming.

The one blessing in all this is that he says he has not had any physical contact. How on earth does a Mama handle this one?

He has been lying and using the computer to find out whatever it is that has him confused and convinced.

PLEASE pray for my family. You facebook posts have always been an encouragement to me.



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