Have you ever heard that followers of Christ who believe in male headship are chauvinists? It is rather common today for those who hate the idea of authority and headship to oppose this form of theology where a man leads as the head of the family. But, as all true saints know, the world is owned by a man, the God-Man Jesus Christ. All people, and that includes every man and woman, work for a man.
Both Parents Warning About Adultery
Yet God has established the home as a place where when the ideal exists, a man (as a dad) with his covenant woman (as a mom), the parents collectively can either build up godly men or tear them down by their negligence. This can best be done when parents work in their proper roles together. This works no matter if rearing a boy or girl. If parents raise a boy into a godly man, that man will shape his culture by his righteous actions. If parents raise a girl into a godly woman, that woman will raise the bar for men to be better men as she reserves herself only to the righteous leaders, which then require for the men to shape up in order to win over the righteous woman. This section of Scripture is designed to train a boy how to be a real man when faced with temptation from an evil woman.
The goal of verses Proverbs 6:20-23 is to make sure the young man is able to be preserved “from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress” (Proverbs 6:24). Make no mistake about it, those who are adulterers will not enter the kingdom of God (see 1 Cor. 6:9-10; Rev. 21:8). The man or woman who lives in adultery without repentance is characteristic of the unredeemed heart and life. So these wise parents here in Proverbs make it a point to teach on this with great vigor and with even much repetition.
First, we see that a righteous home environment is one where the father sets a “command” (Proverbs 6:20a) and from that the mother teaches on that law (Proverbs 6:20b). If the law is in place but the mother ignores it she will tear her own house down (Proverbs 14:1b). She is wise to build on the father’s law (Proverbs 14:1a). If he fails to give a law he will bear the burden of destroying his home and progeny. The father’s law is a “lamp” and the mother’s “teaching a light” (Proverbs 6:23). This complementary role, will drill into the character of a son something that will dwell in him wherever he goes (Proverbs 6:21-22). This type of complementary partnership between the parents will penetrate the core of a young man.
Second, we see the command or law of God passed down to the child by the parents here. The law is that a man is not to “desire her [the adulterous woman] beauty” nor is he to “let her capture” him “with her eyelashes” (Proverbs 6:25). Note clearly here that the parents do not tell the young man to depreciate his own biological desires. Being attracted to a woman’s features is healthy and a sign of a proper working physiology in a man. But he is not to be controlled by the beauty of a woman (see Rom. 6:12,14). This is essential for the boy to become a real man.
Third, the parents lay out for the boy the practical consequences of what to expect if he does not honor this law. If a man takes another man’s woman he will be “burned” (Proverbs 6:27), he will have to pay “sevenfold” and loose the “goods of his house” (Proverbs 6:31), and it will bring “dishonor and disgrace” to him, his name, and in that verify that he “lacks sense” because he did something which “destroys himself” (Proverbs 6:32-33).
Fourth, the parents teach the child that committing adultery can even bring out the wrath of another man against himself as the sin of adultery “makes a man furious” to such a degree that “he will not spare” when he “takes revenge” (Proverbs 6:34). In short the parents make it so clear and so plain in both biblical and practical terms what is at stake when a man steals another man’s woman even if she is the one seeking to be taken by another man.
Parents collectively by their training can effectively curtail one sin that so often ruins homes, lives, and even entire communities and businesses very quickly. If a father will command his son to never entertain an adulterous woman and if a mother will back that up by teaching that law to her son it can set in place a protective mental disposition that when the boy becomes a man will save him and other families, maybe even lives! Ask yourself, have you taken enough time to drill into your child’s life the evil nature of adultery. Adultery is when a man takes another man’s woman to himself, or when he unjustly puts his own wife away (see Matt. 5:32a). Take the time to teach on this; show practical examples of lives ruined by this sin. Lives depend on it, maybe even your child’s physical and eternal life. Pray over this and make sure your child can bind your teaching always on his “heart” and around his “neck” so he can avoid this catastrophic sin. (Proverbs 6:21).
Dr. Keith Sherlin
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